Don't take storms personally

 More Language of Letting Go - Melody Beattie    March 3rd

Somewhere out in the pacific, a storm brewed and swirled and thrashed and died without ever touching the land. Three days later, under a clear blue sky, the storm surge reached the California coast near LA. The sea threw rocks at the house; the waves stacked up and crashed down against the pilings of the foundation. Farther up the street, the ocean ate the back porch of two houses. All night the shore line trembled and shook from the power of the sea. 

THe next morning, the tide pulled back, the swells calmed and the sky stayed blue. I walked down the beach, impressed at the way the ocean had littered it with huge chunks of drift wood and rocks. Then I walked back upstairs and drank my morning coffee. 

Sometimes storms arent about us. Sometimes, friends or loved ones will attack us for no apparent reason. They'll fus, foam and snap at us. When we ask them why we'll say, " Oh, i'm sorry I had a bad day at work."

But we still feel hurt and upset. 

Hold people accountable for their behavior. Don't let people treat you badly. But don't take the storms in their lives personally. These storms may have nothing to do with you. 

Seek shelter if necessary. Get away from curt friends until they have time to calm down; then approach when it's safe. If the storm isn't about you, there's nothing you need to do. Would you try to stop the ocean waves by standing in the surf with your arms outstretched?

Say whatever, Let the the storms blow through.